17: Married To Medicine

The Vedalas sit down with their wives for this special episode of Vital Visions! Namrata Vedala and Sriya Vedala give us an inside look into the lives of the Vedala Brothers and their family. The couples discuss life with a partner in medicine, taking care of burn out and your mental health in a marriage and so much more. In this episode, we get to learn about a small piece of the Vedalas' personal lives and the strong, supportive women who get to be next to them through it all. 

Guest bios:
Naga Namrata Vedala is married to Dr. Krishna Vedala. She has a master's in Computer Science from NYIT and a master's in IT Management from Campbellsville University. Her hobbies include reading books and gardening. Namrata also enjoys spending time at the zoo and spending quality time with family.

Sriya Vedala, BS, MMSc, is married to Dr. Veer Vedala. She has a master's in Immunology from Harvard Medical School and a bachelor's of science in Biomedical Engineering from UT Austin. In her free time, Sriya is a fashion designer and the founder of her label, Sithara by Sriya, where she creates South Asian inspired designs rooted in elegance, simplicity and versatility. 

Poem:
The Selfless by Camille Marie

Links:
Sithara by Sriya

This podcast is for educational purposes only. The information in this show is not to be used as medical advice. If you are needing medical care, please consult with your physician.

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Transcript

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Welcome, friends.

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Dr. Veer Vedala here.

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And I'm Dr.

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Krishna Vedala, and.

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We are. The Vedala Bros.

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Welcome to season
two of our podcast, Vital Visions,

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where we delve into all things
vital, empowering our community.

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One health topic at a time. Absolutely.

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And to our returning listeners,
it's fantastic to have you back

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and to our new listeners.

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Buckle up, because in this podcast
we explore emerging medical research,

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the latest in technology

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and crucial health care topics
that resonate with our community here

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at Norman Regional.

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Plus, we also sprinkle in some health
and wellness tips for good measure.

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That's the spirit.

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And each episode,
we're also joined by incredible guests,

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from medical professionals
to local community leaders

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and even some of our friendly neighbors.

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Together, we tackle various issues
affecting our community.

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So whether you're a health enthusiast
or just looking to stay informed

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about healthy living trends,
consider this podcast.

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To be your ultimate go to resource.

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So join us as we navigate the journey
to healthier lives

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and explore
the latest trends in wellbeing.

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Welcome to Vital Visions
Where Health meets Community.

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Welcome back, my friends. Dr.

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Veer Vedala again
here, joined by my co-host, Dr.

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Krishna Vedala.
And we are the Vedala Brothers.

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Thank you again for joining us for yet
another episode of Vital Visions,

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where we discuss all things vital.

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We've got a very special episode today.

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and Krishna,
I think, I wanted to start with a poem.

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Oh, boy. Okay.

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All right, let's hear this.

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Okay. Okay, so

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the poem is called The Selfless, right?

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And we always have, Doctor Gautam,
come and talk about cardiology with us.

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And I thought this would be
a great poem to include.

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And so let's let's begin.

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Okay.

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The heart is selfless.

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Literally,

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when the human body gets hurt and life
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it pumps out more blood.

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It stops itself from taking any of it

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just to keep our brain, our lungs
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It doesn't really think of itself really.

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It thinks of the needs of others.

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The heart is selfless

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and so is love.

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So since this episode is called
Married to Medicine,

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I thought this quote would be a great way
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right?

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Because it pretty much describes
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our moms mother in laws, all of them.

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You want to start with their intros,
Krishna?

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Yes. So, everybody, we're thrilled
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first off, my beautiful sister in law, 
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Vedala.

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She also has a tremendous, passion
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my wife and the love of my life
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Naga Namrata Vedala.

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And so, guys, why don't you take turns
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Thanks for the

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introduction, doctor
Krishna Vedala, brother in law.

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I'm Sriya Vedala and I’m Dr Veer
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I'm really excited to be here.

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so I do work in the health industry,
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so I have a kind of different
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I have my own fashion label
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and yeah, so we have been married
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I met him in 2019.

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I was still in residency.

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Yeah, it's a different time.

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we met through, mutual family
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but we can talk more about that later.

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but, yeah, we've been married,
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Thank you. Sriya, that was awesome.

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coming to myself, I'm

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Namrata Vedala, Krishna’s wife.

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we have been together, married since

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five years,
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We had our ups and downs.

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but it's been amazing to be a part

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of his life and, to grow.

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To grow with each other.

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we have been married since 2018.

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he just joined his residency

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at that time, and we have been through
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It was tough for, on both of us.

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but we got through that.

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And now he's working for Norman Regional,
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Coming to myself.

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I'm in I.T. sector.

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and, I, I do love it.

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and to do a little bit of gardening
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Well, thank you both for being here.

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you guys already know this, but Krishna
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supports and and pillars, and,
we wanted to invite you here.

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as you guys know, Vital Visions,
we discuss all things vital.

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And I think a way for us
to reach out to our audience.

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And, you know, one of our goals
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audience and, and, or positions.

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we thought it'd be a episode
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we could talk about, in detail for
and dedicate to the, the partners

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for all of the health care workers
out there and to showcase how much,

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if they're not in the medical field or
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and how much people appreciate
their partners as their support system.

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and we thought
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a little bit and give our audience
a little entertainment.

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Definitely.

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So definitely Veer, one of the other things
that we hope this episode achieves

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is, is for, those of,
those of, our audience members that are,

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wanting to be wanting to go
into the medical field

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not just as physicians,
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types of healers, nurses, Nurse
practitioners P.A.s marrying into,

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the health care field, can be at times,

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a challenging task, but also at the same
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And so we just want,
our hope is, is to let those of our,

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those of, of, of our listeners
to understand that.

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And, 
we just wanted to share our experiences,

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and, figured instead of a question based,
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Is that okay with you guys? Yeah.
That's good.

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But before that,

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can I just call you Veer and you Krishna,
or should I say doctor Kay?

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Doctor V or, how does.

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This work?

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Well, I prefer the OG, but, It's okay.

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You can just call me Krishna. It's.

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It's all right. No.

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And I prefer 2.0. Just kidding.

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By the way, he actually has
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So, this
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just kind of just let us know.

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How do you manage and support, 
your respective spouses

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careers and personal lives?

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I can I can go with that.

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So I think what what's most important in
our relationship is open communication.

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you know, marrying him and all of that.

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Like,
I didn't know what I was getting into.

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And thankfully, it's it's been beautiful,
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challenging just trying to understand,
you know, the the challenges

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that come with being a physician
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so it definitely affects,
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It's not just a career.

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It's just in their blood. It's
who they are.

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And, so I think what's, you know,
what helps us a lot is just,

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you know, being open with each other,
letting each other know, like, hey,

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I've had a long day at work today.

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I need some time to finish my notes
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and so,
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to just be transparent and real,
I think is really important.

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and then making time for each other,
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we naturally put into our schedules, like,
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all the little tasks together
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But when we do it together,
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Like going grocery
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For a date nights. Yeah.

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And then we like to cook together
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But together, somehow
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take our mind off of our,
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yeah, that's that's pretty much
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That's an amazing answer

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comes with an understanding
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sometimes definitely come first
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and we understand that,
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I wouldn't say
you won't have to make sacrifices.

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You do have to make sacrifices sometimes.

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but ultimately,
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what they're doing is for the greater good
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because they've worked so hard to get to
the point that they are right now.

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your medical school,
pre-med and going through residency.

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That's a that's a lot of hard work
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so many years to get to this point.

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So you want to see that dream come true.

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you do need to realize that
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So that comes with that understanding.

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Definitely.

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You guys are so, too, you're too kind.

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Yeah.

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Very, you guys are giving us,
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bragging rights here.

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but, I think I would like to get to just
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been reading a lot about,

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trying to learn about leadership.

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Right.

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And, again, it's an ever,
ever growing field in medicine and, and,

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something that I think
Krishna and I also, have been

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trying to incorporate into our lives is

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medicine is not just our identity,
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And one of mine happens to be, leadership.

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So I've been reading from this
author named Brené Brown.

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Have you guys heard about Brené Brown
before?

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Yeah, I mentioned her.

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And so as I listen to her podcast

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and there's something that she mentioned
that was really interesting

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in relationships
that I thought I'd bring up.

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and it something
like kind of relates to something

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both of you guys said is when she comes
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this goes for, like,
any career that's demanding, right?

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she mentioned that she.

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Her and her husband discuss things,
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and, they, they come home
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a percentage, and she's like,
I've got 50% today, right?

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And that means that they're that they both
have so much, energy left in the tank.

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Right. So she's got 50% left.

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And then there's some days where he comes
home and he's like, I've got 70, right?

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And then those days she takes
a little break or she comes home one day

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and she's like,
I only have 30% left in the tank.

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And that's when the partner,

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realizes that.

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And when you know, you're married.

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So, you know, you know,
the subtle indications and things

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about what needs to be done
with the responsibilities

241
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you know, we don't have kids yet
that I can't even imagine,

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what it's like for the other couples
out there dealing with that.

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And, I thought that was just a really
unique, unique way of, touching base

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with each other and having, like,
that understanding and communication.

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Definitely. Yeah.

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Definitely. Agree.

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I think there's definitely days
where, you know, you might be having

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a really hard day at work.
So you come home, you're really tired.

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and then I'm like,
oh, I've been working from home,

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I'm great. Like today was a great day.

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And so I have more energy than you.

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But, and we really kind of balance each
other out when it, when it comes to that,

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when we're home.

254
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But working from home
some days you, you you're

255
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sometimes it's the opposite for you.

256
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Sometimes you have a very draining day
filled with meetings and, I just,

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I don't know, something
that makes me going.

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It's a really good day at clinic
where I felt like I really helped someone

259
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come home really happy. And I'm like,
I got the dogs.

260
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I got the dogs. Yes.

261
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Yeah. So.

262
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And then. I would like to add to that. Yeah.

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previously I don't know if

264
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you ever heard
they used to say marriage is 50, 50/50.

265
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It's never 50/50. Right.

266
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It is always sometimes it can be 70/30.

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Sometimes it can be 75/25.

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You never know how your day day would go.

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like you said,
it can be absolutely draining sometimes.

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And sometimes it can be a wonderful day
where you help someone

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and you're so proud of yourself
to see them that happy, you know,

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and be it any career, as you said it,
you always have ups and downs.

273
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And I think marriage
is about balancing out each other.

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Definitely. Yeah.

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so now that our listeners
have gotten to know,

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Namrata and Sriya a little bit better,
Krishna, can you guys,

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kind of just give us a
summary of how you guys met?

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Sure.

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You want to start

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No you can start. Yeah. Okay.

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We met through our parents, actually,
it's an arranged

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love marriage, like you said,
but it's it's a different concept.

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Definitely.

284
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And I want to make this clear
that it's it's not a hard and fast rule

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when they say it's an arranged marriage
and you have to marry that person.

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It's not.

287
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It has evolved a lot
through the centuries.

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And I would say it's
almost like a love marriage.

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But you are given
the choice. It's your choice.

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You can choose whom to marry,
but they show you the partner.

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They they pick and choose.

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And then from that, you can definitely,
choose whom to marry.

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And, I'm so fortunate to meet you.

294
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Definitely. And thanks for choosing me.

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I think this is a really interesting topic
that we could touch on.

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Just,

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just to talk about,

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you know, cultures where they this
is this is, normal or it's common, right.

299
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Krishna, what
what was your experience with that

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like? 

301
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Well, in the beginning, it's a little bit

302
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difficult to put yourself out there
and no matter where you are.

303
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and so, our parents,
we had our own online dating profile,

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and then our parents were semi managing
it, and then,

305
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I believe, her parents and,

306
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and my parents, kind of,
talk to each other.

307
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And then, 
my dad, gave me her phone number,

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and her dad, gave my phone number to her.

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And then we texted each other.

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And on the very first day,
she said, well, I'm busy today.

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Can I talk to you later?

312
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And I was like,
okay, well, let's let's give it a chance.

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And that's fine.

314
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And I and we scheduled the time that we
were going to call and talk to each other.

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And then we ended
up, calling the next day,

316
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and then we ended up hitting it off
pretty quickly.

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I think I pretty much knew
by the third day

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that we were talking that this was someone
that was very special,

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and someone that I could really, really
see spending the rest of my life with.

320
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And then, yeah.

321
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Yeah, it was, it was from there.
And then it just hit off real quickly.

322
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And then I went to go meet, 
her family, and

323
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I think it was in Milwaukee because her,
her sister had just given birth.

324
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Shout out to our niece.

325
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Ishita,
and, went there and met her parents.

326
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And then, then I came back
and then she came and visited us.

327
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And then we, ended up meeting
some of our extended family.

328
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And here we are.

329
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So we got married,
and then five years later, here we are.

330
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So, like,

331
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I want to give you my, my experience
throughout this process

332
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because when they say it happened quickly,
it happened quickly, like I was,

333
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I was in Wichita at that point,
and I came home to me to meet my sister

334
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in law here. And I was like,

335
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are you guys sure?

336
00:16:44,420 --> 00:16:47,381
Yeah, I was very nervous,
but I was very sure. 

337
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I was I was 100%.

338
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Yeah.

339
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But, so grateful
to have Naga Namrata,

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my sister in law in our family because,
she is the most wonderful person, and she.

341
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She takes care of us all the time.

342
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We love her dearly. We love you too.

343
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Aw thanks. So,

344
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since we talked about how we met.

345
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So how did you guys meet?

346
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You know, it's funny
how you said it was very quick for them.

347
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because for me, too.

348
00:17:15,242 --> 00:17:17,786
I mean, it was pretty,
you know, it's pretty. Quick for us too.

349
00:17:17,786 --> 00:17:21,373
Yeah, it was, 
Which isn't like me at all, but,

350
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you know, similar to their story is, 
I was I was on dating apps for a while,

351
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and then I was like,
I give up, I'm kind of exhausted, but,

352
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you know, then my parents were like, hey,
how about we like, you know,

353
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you know, try to, you know,
find someone together pretty much.

354
00:17:37,181 --> 00:17:37,848
Right.

355
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So for me,
I was like, yeah, as long as, you know,

356
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you know, it's
someone they're family friends

357
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or someone that we know, like,
I mean, I'll give it a shot.

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You can be my dating app for me.

359
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Pretty much. Is what that looked like.

360
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yeah. Leave it up to them to swipe
left or right.

361
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Yeah. So they would do that.

362
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They would, you know, tell me people
and be like, hey, that's what he does.

363
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Like this is where he lives.

364
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And then, you know, eventually, like,
they show me, a picture of Veer

365
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and, like, what he does, and he's like,
they're like, he's a family oriented guy.

366
00:18:03,874 --> 00:18:07,336
And, you know, he's in residency right now
in Kansas.

367
00:18:07,336 --> 00:18:09,838
And I was like, Where's Kansas? Just jokes.

368
00:18:12,132 --> 00:18:12,883
but yeah.

369
00:18:12,883 --> 00:18:14,510
And I was like, okay, yeah,
I'll give it a shot.

370
00:18:14,510 --> 00:18:18,680
So I told my dad to go ahead
and give my number to his mom.

371
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And I was like,
if he texts me today, then I'll respond.

372
00:18:21,767 --> 00:18:24,311
But if he doesn't, then that's over. Yeah.

373
00:18:24,311 --> 00:18:27,940
I was actually on my clinic rotation
during residency at that point.

374
00:18:28,565 --> 00:18:33,779
you know, I finished a long day of clinic
and, and, it was like, 10:00 at night.

375
00:18:33,779 --> 00:18:34,988
Yeah. Right next to her.

376
00:18:34,988 --> 00:18:37,991
I was like, finished up all my notes,
and I was, I was texting her and

377
00:18:38,992 --> 00:18:41,954
funny story was, so her

378
00:18:41,954 --> 00:18:44,957
dad had, like, put in her, like,

379
00:18:45,624 --> 00:18:48,085
not like, not what she goes by,
but her real first name.

380
00:18:48,085 --> 00:18:49,211
right?

381
00:18:49,211 --> 00:18:51,797
And so I was like, hey, is this ...
And she's like, that's not my name.

382
00:18:52,756 --> 00:18:53,799
I was like, strike one.

383
00:18:53,799 --> 00:18:55,050
Yeah.

384
00:18:55,050 --> 00:18:58,595
But I guess when you know, you know,
because that night

385
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we texted for like four hours
and didn't sleep till like 2 a.m..

386
00:19:03,100 --> 00:19:05,227
Yeah. Next day we talked on the phone.

387
00:19:05,227 --> 00:19:08,021
For six hours. Yeah, it was crazy.

388
00:19:08,021 --> 00:19:12,317
Yeah, yeah, it's crazy how much you can
get to know a person over FaceTime.

389
00:19:12,317 --> 00:19:14,778
Yeah, like I never thought I would make it
to six hours.

390
00:19:14,778 --> 00:19:19,116
Was like six minutes and I'm done. But.

391
00:19:23,245 --> 00:19:23,954
No. That was great.

392
00:19:23,954 --> 00:19:26,957
Six. and so, yeah, we,
we talked for a while, and so,

393
00:19:27,457 --> 00:19:31,420
it's really not that
when you think of people think of arranged

394
00:19:31,420 --> 00:19:32,462
marriages, you know, there's

395
00:19:32,462 --> 00:19:36,550
this association because, you know,
people don't know about it as much,

396
00:19:36,550 --> 00:19:39,761
but it's really not that different as if,
you know, maybe,

397
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meeting, a friend of your friends.

398
00:19:43,807 --> 00:19:44,141
Right.

399
00:19:44,141 --> 00:19:44,808
And they're like,

400
00:19:44,808 --> 00:19:49,062
you know, hey, I set you guys up, and
you guys would be great for each other.

401
00:19:49,313 --> 00:19:50,772
Except the difference here is

402
00:19:50,772 --> 00:19:54,943
it's just people that have known you
your entire life say that.

403
00:19:55,068 --> 00:19:56,737
Which are your parents. And,

404
00:19:57,946 --> 00:20:00,282
in both cases, they were right.

405
00:20:00,282 --> 00:20:00,616
Yeah.

406
00:20:00,616 --> 00:20:01,575
I would say, like,

407
00:20:01,575 --> 00:20:04,745
there's that misconception
that arranged means you have no choice.

408
00:20:04,745 --> 00:20:07,998
Or, like, you meet each other
at the altar, you know?

409
00:20:07,998 --> 00:20:08,832
And yeah, this

410
00:20:08,832 --> 00:20:11,835
isn't love is blind.

411
00:20:12,044 --> 00:20:12,461
True.

412
00:20:12,461 --> 00:20:13,462
Good show, by the way.

413
00:20:13,462 --> 00:20:17,174
but yeah, it's definitely more like it's
evolved over time.

414
00:20:17,174 --> 00:20:20,886
Like Namrata mentioned before,
like arranged in the way, like

415
00:20:21,053 --> 00:20:22,304
your parents have a say in it.

416
00:20:22,304 --> 00:20:25,349
And I trust my parents
and they trusted their parents.

417
00:20:25,349 --> 00:20:27,559
And it's very true. Like,
they know what we want

418
00:20:27,559 --> 00:20:30,520
and they know, like,
what would go well with us.

419
00:20:30,520 --> 00:20:34,399
And so for us, it was a family experience,
like our families truly

420
00:20:34,399 --> 00:20:38,320
did marry each other because our parents
talked to each other for a while first.

421
00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:41,073
And I mean, it felt like family right
away, honestly.

422
00:20:41,073 --> 00:20:44,117
Like I remember calling Veers
my mother in law,

423
00:20:44,117 --> 00:20:47,287
like the first time
I saw her, it just it just felt right.

424
00:20:48,330 --> 00:20:49,206
yeah.

425
00:20:49,206 --> 00:20:49,665
Yeah.

426
00:20:49,665 --> 00:20:50,999
And just for the record,

427
00:20:50,999 --> 00:20:54,795
everybody knows when Veer introduced
Sriya to Namrata and I,

428
00:20:54,795 --> 00:20:57,798
I did not feel anxious or worried at all
because

429
00:20:58,799 --> 00:21:00,217
I was actually very happy.

430
00:21:00,217 --> 00:21:03,887
I was like,
yes, he's finally met the one, and,

431
00:21:03,887 --> 00:21:07,182
we all fell in love with Sriya
as soon as we talked to her. Yes.

432
00:21:07,182 --> 00:21:08,850
First time we met her.

433
00:21:08,850 --> 00:21:11,144
so moving back

434
00:21:11,144 --> 00:21:14,022
throughout our conversation, our journey,

435
00:21:14,022 --> 00:21:18,652
it doesn't sound like you guys knew
what challenges there would be

436
00:21:19,111 --> 00:21:22,572
in, being married to a partner

437
00:21:22,781 --> 00:21:25,575
or a spouse in the medical field.

438
00:21:25,575 --> 00:21:27,369
Is that correct?

439
00:21:27,369 --> 00:21:31,707
no, I definitely don't think we knew what
we were getting into when we first met.

440
00:21:31,707 --> 00:21:33,458
It's not something
I actually thought about.

441
00:21:33,458 --> 00:21:37,796
not until we were stuck together
because of the pandemic

442
00:21:37,796 --> 00:21:41,091
in Wichita while you were doing
your residency, nearing the end of it.

443
00:21:41,341 --> 00:21:45,929
That's kind of when I was able to see
your day to day life and how it affected

444
00:21:46,138 --> 00:21:49,766
you know, you
and how just what your life was like.

445
00:21:49,766 --> 00:21:51,101
Because I had no idea. Right.

446
00:21:51,101 --> 00:21:55,439
but I think it's definitely changed,
you know, throughout time.

447
00:21:55,439 --> 00:21:57,357
you know, you

448
00:21:57,357 --> 00:22:00,569
especially when you're on call,
like when we first got married or

449
00:22:00,694 --> 00:22:02,654
something like that, like,
that's when I knew how, like,

450
00:22:02,654 --> 00:22:06,616
the time that I had with
you wasn't exactly the amount of time

451
00:22:06,616 --> 00:22:08,827
that I thought
I would have. Right? On a day to day thing.

452
00:22:08,827 --> 00:22:13,540
but it was it was definitely that part
that challenged me the most.

453
00:22:13,540 --> 00:22:17,461
Was just being okay with you
leaving at 2:00 a.m. to go deliver a baby,

454
00:22:17,461 --> 00:22:18,754
which is a beautiful thing.

455
00:22:18,754 --> 00:22:20,130
I was so proud of you.

456
00:22:20,130 --> 00:22:23,675
but, you know, it it definitely
does affect, you know, life at home.

457
00:22:23,675 --> 00:22:28,930
So, Yeah, I didn't know about it back
then, but, honestly, like, it's been great

458
00:22:28,930 --> 00:22:32,017
seeing you through this journey,
and all I want to do is support you and,

459
00:22:33,060 --> 00:22:34,936
you know, make sure that you're okay.

460
00:22:34,936 --> 00:22:37,939
And just make sure that you're happy.

461
00:22:39,024 --> 00:22:40,400
That's amazing.

462
00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:43,403
No words, just tears.

463
00:22:43,528 --> 00:22:45,447
But yeah, I would I would definitely say

464
00:22:45,447 --> 00:22:48,992
that you never know
until you journey with them.

465
00:22:49,326 --> 00:22:51,912
When you're getting into the
into the marriage, you

466
00:22:51,912 --> 00:22:55,082
you have a different kind of expectation
of what their life is,

467
00:22:55,457 --> 00:22:58,460
and it's completely different
what they go through.

468
00:22:58,460 --> 00:23:03,465
It's just just not that it's it's a lot
that goes through that.

469
00:23:03,465 --> 00:23:08,178
They go through or you both go through
and to achieve what you achieved until now

470
00:23:08,178 --> 00:23:12,265
and still day to day,
you go through a lot,

471
00:23:12,265 --> 00:23:16,937
dealing with patients, dealing with the,
the work that comes,

472
00:23:16,937 --> 00:23:21,233
the challenges of the work
that comes through, seeing patients and.

473
00:23:21,525 --> 00:23:25,654
Yeah, that when you when you sometimes
come home, it's really draining

474
00:23:26,154 --> 00:23:29,074
and definitely in residency.

475
00:23:29,074 --> 00:23:29,908
I would agree with Sriya.

476
00:23:29,908 --> 00:23:30,033
It's

477
00:23:30,033 --> 00:23:33,328
It's like it's all three years
that you were there,

478
00:23:33,328 --> 00:23:35,664
Krishna. Each year was different.

479
00:23:35,664 --> 00:23:39,000
First year you you
you were like kind of getting

480
00:23:39,501 --> 00:23:42,796
getting to know residency,
getting to know people around that.

481
00:23:43,213 --> 00:23:47,384
And trying to be the best version
of yourself in residency.

482
00:23:47,384 --> 00:23:51,513
The second year, it gets more tough
because you actually need

483
00:23:51,513 --> 00:23:54,683
to know much more than the first year,

484
00:23:54,891 --> 00:23:57,894
and you need to guide your first years
that come in.

485
00:23:58,395 --> 00:24:01,523
And third year
is a whole different ballgame, right

486
00:24:01,773 --> 00:24:06,736
Veer? Because you have
so many responsibilities on your head

487
00:24:06,736 --> 00:24:10,532
and you you're almost considered senior
and attendings at that point.

488
00:24:11,032 --> 00:24:13,535
And it's it was really challenging

489
00:24:13,535 --> 00:24:14,327
for Krishna.

490
00:24:14,327 --> 00:24:16,496
It was not an easy task.

491
00:24:16,496 --> 00:24:20,625
But I think, in our generation,
one of the biggest challenges has been

492
00:24:20,625 --> 00:24:25,088
the pandemic, specifically, 
especially where I did my residency

493
00:24:25,088 --> 00:24:28,717
training in Batesville, Arkansas,
in the rural and rural parts of Arkansas.

494
00:24:29,050 --> 00:24:32,053
there were challenges that I don't think

495
00:24:32,262 --> 00:24:35,807
anybody would ever foresee here
in the 21st century.

496
00:24:36,558 --> 00:24:38,727
and it was draining, to some degree.

497
00:24:38,727 --> 00:24:43,690
But it was also now, looking back,
it was very rewarding because now, after

498
00:24:44,149 --> 00:24:47,569
seeing the things that we have seen
in the last two, three years,

499
00:24:47,986 --> 00:24:51,740
I feel like it's it gives us a self,
a sense of self-confidence.

500
00:24:51,740 --> 00:24:56,495
We can we can deal and manage crises
almost on a daily basis

501
00:24:56,495 --> 00:24:59,498
because we were just so used to it,
to doing it back then.

502
00:24:59,831 --> 00:25:04,586
One of the things that I had difficulty
in residency was, when Namrata's,

503
00:25:04,753 --> 00:25:08,465
Namrata's mother had passed away
and she got stuck in India for 20 months.

504
00:25:09,090 --> 00:25:13,845
that was a very difficult, tragedy
to deal with first,

505
00:25:13,845 --> 00:25:18,225
and then to have to deal with knowing
that she was going to get stuck in India

506
00:25:18,225 --> 00:25:21,228
because of one immigration issue and two

507
00:25:21,436 --> 00:25:26,024
because of, the pandemic, was, a very,

508
00:25:27,526 --> 00:25:27,817
I would

509
00:25:27,817 --> 00:25:30,862
say defeating and to some degree
depressing.

510
00:25:31,655 --> 00:25:34,783
episode in my life,
knowing that the person

511
00:25:34,783 --> 00:25:38,745
that you love, you have, come to see

512
00:25:38,787 --> 00:25:41,748
spending the rest of your life
and physically, she's not there.

513
00:25:41,748 --> 00:25:44,751
and that was, that was very,

514
00:25:45,460 --> 00:25:47,003
difficult to escape from.

515
00:25:47,003 --> 00:25:50,799
But I do think me being in residency
and being so occupied with work

516
00:25:50,799 --> 00:25:51,967
almost on a daily basis,

517
00:25:51,967 --> 00:25:55,095
because when you're in residency,
you're working 80 hours a week.

518
00:25:55,095 --> 00:25:57,222
And then I know when during the pandemic,

519
00:25:57,222 --> 00:26:00,225
people had to make more sacrifices,
they had to work longer.

520
00:26:00,267 --> 00:26:03,270
and so for me, it was,

521
00:26:03,478 --> 00:26:06,481
rewarding in the sense that I felt,

522
00:26:06,565 --> 00:26:09,025
accomplishing something on a daily basis

523
00:26:09,025 --> 00:26:13,280
made up, for her lack of presence. so

524
00:26:14,614 --> 00:26:16,366
it was a very challenging time.

525
00:26:16,366 --> 00:26:19,369
And, I think for

526
00:26:19,786 --> 00:26:22,789
specifically for married couples,
it can be very challenging.

527
00:26:22,956 --> 00:26:26,543
But if you stick together,
you'll get through it, right?

528
00:26:26,626 --> 00:26:27,294
Definitely.

529
00:26:27,294 --> 00:26:32,007
I would add that it was very challenging
because I wasn't there to help him.

530
00:26:32,424 --> 00:26:36,595
And whenever I used to talk,
I could hear the stress in his voice

531
00:26:37,137 --> 00:26:42,559
and we just we missed each other a lot
and it was really,

532
00:26:42,684 --> 00:26:46,646
really tough not being there for him
when he needed me the most.

533
00:26:47,188 --> 00:26:53,028
but I'm I'm really glad that
we got through that and we are together.

534
00:26:53,278 --> 00:26:54,821
Yeah, I think it made you guys stronger.

535
00:26:54,821 --> 00:26:56,781
I think definitely
it really made us stronger.

536
00:26:56,781 --> 00:27:00,368
It really made us come to really love
and care for each other more.

537
00:27:00,410 --> 00:27:04,414
And we we value the time that we have
right now because of that.

538
00:27:04,748 --> 00:27:04,998
Yeah.

539
00:27:06,166 --> 00:27:06,374
Yeah.

540
00:27:06,374 --> 00:27:09,544
I think, you know, the pandemic affected
all of us in different ways.

541
00:27:09,544 --> 00:27:12,255
And, I think it's a good way
for us to talk about,

542
00:27:12,255 --> 00:27:14,466
you know, burnout in the health care
field, too.

543
00:27:14,466 --> 00:27:18,470
And, how much it affected,
people's mental health. And,

544
00:27:19,721 --> 00:27:23,433
I think, you know, for our listeners,
this is a good moment to talk about,

545
00:27:23,933 --> 00:27:27,020
you know, for each of us, like,
how do we get that work life balance,

546
00:27:28,188 --> 00:27:31,066
with you, with you, with the
with your own careers

547
00:27:31,066 --> 00:27:34,486
and your own stresses that come with that,
that you have to bring home.

548
00:27:34,486 --> 00:27:37,489
And then having to deal with ours as well.

549
00:27:38,782 --> 00:27:40,367
because something that Krishna

550
00:27:40,367 --> 00:27:43,870
and I try to try to point out
is, is we want,

551
00:27:44,829 --> 00:27:48,917
you know, we want ourselves
to be beyond beyond the physician mindset.

552
00:27:48,917 --> 00:27:50,126
Right.

553
00:27:50,126 --> 00:27:52,671
doctor Krishna
Vedala is a internal medicine primary

554
00:27:52,671 --> 00:27:56,091
care physician,
but he's also an avid sports fan, right.

555
00:27:56,091 --> 00:28:00,387
He he's also, an amateur, book writer.

556
00:28:01,096 --> 00:28:04,933
he is a loving husband and and that's,

557
00:28:04,933 --> 00:28:07,936
that's something
that we would want patients to see.

558
00:28:07,936 --> 00:28:11,773
And a big part of that is,
is being involved in our own interests

559
00:28:11,773 --> 00:28:14,567
and taking work life balance seriously.

560
00:28:14,567 --> 00:28:18,196
you know,
because if you if you don't have that

561
00:28:18,196 --> 00:28:21,950
and you don't have the mental stamina
to take care of yourself

562
00:28:21,950 --> 00:28:24,494
and your own family,
how can you take care of your patients?

563
00:28:24,494 --> 00:28:24,786
Right? True. 

564
00:28:24,786 --> 00:28:28,248
And that's the whole point we want to make
to our students and resident listeners,

565
00:28:28,581 --> 00:28:30,834
even though they're primary care
providers,

566
00:28:30,834 --> 00:28:34,003
any provider, any health care worker
that's going through this to understand,

567
00:28:35,088 --> 00:28:38,341
so, could can we go through our examples?

568
00:28:38,383 --> 00:28:40,885
I think that'd be a great option.
Sriya, what do you think?

569
00:28:40,885 --> 00:28:43,888
What are some things that you do
to kind of help your work life balance?

570
00:28:45,098 --> 00:28:47,892
I think for me, it's like

571
00:28:47,892 --> 00:28:51,771
after work,
I, I just want to not think about work.

572
00:28:52,397 --> 00:28:54,524
even if the day was good, if it was bad,
it doesn't matter.

573
00:28:54,524 --> 00:28:58,027
I think recently we've been trying
to become more active,

574
00:28:58,069 --> 00:29:01,072
and, you know,
take care of our health, like Veer said.

575
00:29:01,322 --> 00:29:04,993
And so we go to the gym together, and,
you know, before I was like, I'm

576
00:29:04,993 --> 00:29:05,952
never going to the gym.

577
00:29:05,952 --> 00:29:07,203
I wasn't that kind of person.

578
00:29:07,203 --> 00:29:10,749
I never thought I would,
but just going to the gym with him,

579
00:29:10,749 --> 00:29:15,086
you just feel better after
going to the gym and we feel energized.

580
00:29:15,086 --> 00:29:17,464
We feel,
you know, ready to take on the world

581
00:29:17,464 --> 00:29:18,006
pretty much.

582
00:29:18,006 --> 00:29:21,551
And then, you know,
we get all of our chores done.

583
00:29:21,551 --> 00:29:23,720
We go
grocery shopping, like I said, at Costco.

584
00:29:24,721 --> 00:29:25,680
shout out to Costco

585
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:27,515
I guess.

586
00:29:27,515 --> 00:29:30,310
But I think a lot of it also comes
with adapting

587
00:29:30,310 --> 00:29:33,480
to each other's, 
kind of interests, like you said.

588
00:29:34,314 --> 00:29:39,944
I learned more about video games, and
we try to play more video games together.

589
00:29:39,944 --> 00:29:42,197
Cause that's something..
And learning about fashion.

590
00:29:42,197 --> 00:29:42,572
Yeah.

591
00:29:42,572 --> 00:29:45,658
Because, you know, ultimately,
when we weren't together.

592
00:29:45,658 --> 00:29:48,369
Right, like, we had our own life,
we didn't have to, like,

593
00:29:48,369 --> 00:29:51,289
think about another person living with you
and being with you.

594
00:29:51,289 --> 00:29:51,915
Right.

595
00:29:51,915 --> 00:29:54,918
But when it when we were together, like,
it's like

596
00:29:55,001 --> 00:29:57,754
you want to spend time with that person,
but you also want to take time

597
00:29:57,754 --> 00:30:00,215
for yourself
to do the things that you like to do.

598
00:30:00,215 --> 00:30:02,050
And so for you, that was video games.

599
00:30:02,050 --> 00:30:06,137
and though I did play video games growing
up, like I started

600
00:30:06,387 --> 00:30:09,516
wanting to play more because
I wanted to be a part of that life

601
00:30:09,516 --> 00:30:10,892
with you. Yeah.

602
00:30:10,892 --> 00:30:14,854
and then with fashion, like,
you know, you support me so much

603
00:30:14,854 --> 00:30:19,317
when it comes to designing and I show you
my designs and we talk about it, and,

604
00:30:19,651 --> 00:30:24,781
it's just it's been really great adapting
and kind of learning each other's.

605
00:30:24,864 --> 00:30:25,824
Yeah. Like interests.

606
00:30:25,824 --> 00:30:28,868
And I think, like,
you know, we make time for ourselves and,

607
00:30:29,035 --> 00:30:33,456
take necessary breaks when able to, like,
we allocate our vacation days

608
00:30:33,456 --> 00:30:34,332
for each other's interests.

609
00:30:34,332 --> 00:30:36,417
Like, she comes with me to my CME events, and

610
00:30:36,417 --> 00:30:39,212
and I'm going to New York
Fashion Week with her in September.

611
00:30:39,212 --> 00:30:42,882
And I think, that's been
that's been really great and being able

612
00:30:42,882 --> 00:30:46,469
to meld our interests together because now
I'm really interested in fashion.

613
00:30:46,511 --> 00:30:49,806
I care about what I look like,
you know, even in even scrubs.

614
00:30:49,806 --> 00:30:53,726
So, sometimes I mix and match the colors
to make it more appealing.

615
00:30:54,644 --> 00:30:57,814
but, the other thing
I think we also do is we do spend

616
00:30:57,814 --> 00:30:59,941
a lot of time together, and,

617
00:31:00,900 --> 00:31:03,570
and that's really important,
but we also give each other space,

618
00:31:03,570 --> 00:31:08,074
when needed, which has been it's
been really great and valuable tool

619
00:31:08,074 --> 00:31:09,534
that we've been using is

620
00:31:09,534 --> 00:31:12,537
when sometimes you need time for yourself
to do your own thing.

621
00:31:12,662 --> 00:31:16,457
I think that's really important, honestly,
because before that's all you get

622
00:31:16,457 --> 00:31:17,709
is space with yourself.

623
00:31:17,709 --> 00:31:22,297
And then when you have someone else
in your life, you're like, I love them,

624
00:31:22,589 --> 00:31:25,425
but I just need some time to like, relax

625
00:31:25,425 --> 00:31:29,137
and kind of reset my life,
you know, after a really hard day at work.

626
00:31:29,137 --> 00:31:31,556
So we do give each other that space.

627
00:31:31,556 --> 00:31:34,058
Like I have girls nights.
He has guys nights.

628
00:31:34,058 --> 00:31:37,729
you know, and it's just it's been

629
00:31:38,062 --> 00:31:41,441
it's something that at first you're like,
you feel bad because you're like,

630
00:31:42,275 --> 00:31:44,611
this is the person I married
and I should always want to be with them.

631
00:31:44,611 --> 00:31:48,781
But I think that's I don't
that can't be healthy all the times.

632
00:31:48,781 --> 00:31:48,990
Right?

633
00:31:48,990 --> 00:31:52,201
Like you need your own time
and it's important for your mental health.

634
00:31:52,201 --> 00:31:54,829
So I kind of learned
the importance of that.

635
00:31:54,829 --> 00:31:58,833
And it definitely helped us kind of,
you know, go

636
00:31:58,833 --> 00:32:02,462
stronger and learn about each other
and give each other that space.

637
00:32:02,712 --> 00:32:02,921
Yeah, definitely.

638
00:32:04,631 --> 00:32:07,675
I would
say we try we definitely try to make,

639
00:32:07,759 --> 00:32:11,387
time for each other,
even if it's just sitting by ourselves.

640
00:32:11,721 --> 00:32:12,430
Doesn't matter.

641
00:32:12,430 --> 00:32:16,726
We I sometimes he has notes
that he needs to write after coming home.

642
00:32:17,018 --> 00:32:22,106
I just sit by him, by him, beside him
and just do my own work.

643
00:32:22,106 --> 00:32:23,608
And he keeps writing notes.

644
00:32:23,608 --> 00:32:26,694
But that's a good enough time
to spend with each other.

645
00:32:27,236 --> 00:32:30,990
Not talking
also is spending time with each other

646
00:32:30,990 --> 00:32:34,661
and spending time on yourself
like it's it's great.

647
00:32:34,744 --> 00:32:38,081
Yeah, you have your own space
and you are doing your own thing,

648
00:32:38,081 --> 00:32:41,459
but you still are together
and spending time with each other.

649
00:32:41,793 --> 00:32:42,543
That's it.

650
00:32:42,543 --> 00:32:42,919
That's it.

651
00:32:42,919 --> 00:32:44,754
that's what we adopted.

652
00:32:44,754 --> 00:32:46,172
And it's it's going great.

653
00:32:46,172 --> 00:32:49,968
And sometimes we definitely plan
for a future.

654
00:32:49,968 --> 00:32:51,010
Definitely.

655
00:32:51,010 --> 00:32:53,471
For example, for vacations and all.

656
00:32:53,471 --> 00:32:56,557
You have to because you being physicians,

657
00:32:56,975 --> 00:32:59,978
you have if you want to take a vacation,
it's not easy.

658
00:33:00,019 --> 00:33:04,691
And we know that as as your spouses
we do understand that, right Sriya?

659
00:33:04,732 --> 00:33:07,151
Yeah. Yeah. No, definitely. Yeah.

660
00:33:07,151 --> 00:33:08,569
It really does help.

661
00:33:08,569 --> 00:33:10,863
Planning ahead. Yeah, yeah.

662
00:33:10,863 --> 00:33:15,785
And, sometimes we both actually,
I would say Sriya too.

663
00:33:15,785 --> 00:33:18,871
We know that sometimes plans don't
go accordingly.

664
00:33:19,372 --> 00:33:22,709
And for me, that is always behind

665
00:33:22,709 --> 00:33:25,837
my mind
that okay, we are planning something.

666
00:33:25,837 --> 00:33:29,340
Even if that doesn't go
according to the plan, it's okay.

667
00:33:29,674 --> 00:33:31,384
We'll adjust and adapt.

668
00:33:31,384 --> 00:33:34,721
So that understanding
definitely comes into the picture.

669
00:33:34,721 --> 00:33:36,139
When you're married to a physician.

670
00:33:38,224 --> 00:33:39,851
No, I definitely agree.

671
00:33:39,851 --> 00:33:43,896
obviously spending time with each other
and also at the same time

672
00:33:44,188 --> 00:33:47,025
giving each other space
are two very important,

673
00:33:47,025 --> 00:33:49,694
aspects of any marriage.

674
00:33:49,694 --> 00:33:54,574
I think in our case, it's a little bit
more unique because we have we feel

675
00:33:54,574 --> 00:33:57,618
that we have lost so much time together
because she was stuck in India.

676
00:33:57,994 --> 00:33:58,202
Yeah.

677
00:33:58,202 --> 00:34:01,581
and so
I think we try to make more of an emphasis

678
00:34:01,956 --> 00:34:05,668
on making sure that we relish each other's
presence, in our lives.

679
00:34:05,668 --> 00:34:09,047
And, and I really, I'm appreciative

680
00:34:09,047 --> 00:34:12,050
of Namrata for doing that
and for understanding that,

681
00:34:12,341 --> 00:34:17,180
and also for putting up with, with, my,
my note taking every day when I come home.

682
00:34:17,180 --> 00:34:19,599
So I just try to stay, caught up

683
00:34:19,599 --> 00:34:21,684
because I know otherwise
work is going to get piled on.

684
00:34:21,684 --> 00:34:25,188
So the administrative burden
we take home. Yep.

685
00:34:25,772 --> 00:34:27,023
That's everywhere.

686
00:34:27,023 --> 00:34:29,275
Yeah.
Wherever you go, you know, these days.

687
00:34:29,275 --> 00:34:32,612
But one of the things that I think
I just wanted to just kind of highlight

688
00:34:32,612 --> 00:34:37,909
real quick was, how is life different
now compared to when we were in residency?

689
00:34:37,909 --> 00:34:42,538
Would you say things, 
do get better after residency?

690
00:34:42,747 --> 00:34:44,832
And if they do or if they don't, how so?

691
00:34:46,501 --> 00:34:47,627
I mean, I was only

692
00:34:47,627 --> 00:34:50,630
there for, like, a year of his residency.

693
00:34:51,506 --> 00:34:55,802
but I think in general, like,
just being together

694
00:34:55,802 --> 00:34:59,722
for longer periods of time,
like now, it's been like four years.

695
00:34:59,722 --> 00:35:01,557
Like, you just learn to adapt

696
00:35:01,557 --> 00:35:04,977
and you kind of more aware,
like I said, of the situation, like,

697
00:35:05,311 --> 00:35:09,107
I know he's going to have, patients
to call over the weekend.

698
00:35:09,107 --> 00:35:11,651
Okay, I'll stop.

699
00:35:11,651 --> 00:35:14,654
You're totally fine.

700
00:35:15,696 --> 00:35:15,988
like,

701
00:35:15,988 --> 00:35:19,033
I know that over the weekends he's
going to have to call some patients,

702
00:35:19,033 --> 00:35:22,829
and that's something that I didn't know
going into it.

703
00:35:22,829 --> 00:35:24,789
Right. Like it's a 24/7 job.

704
00:35:24,789 --> 00:35:28,209
whether it's residents calling for help
or other physicians

705
00:35:28,209 --> 00:35:32,338
wanting to talk about a certain patient
or calling his patients

706
00:35:32,338 --> 00:35:36,175
like it's something that happens
and, you know, at random times of the day,

707
00:35:36,175 --> 00:35:37,176
like when we're eating dinner

708
00:35:37,176 --> 00:35:40,263
and or when we're out eating
dinner, we're always eating,

709
00:35:42,473 --> 00:35:45,601
but I think that's
something that I've learned over time.

710
00:35:45,601 --> 00:35:49,021
And I'm sure it's
definitely the same with, Krishna is

711
00:35:49,689 --> 00:35:52,191
it's a 24/7 job, and we're just here

712
00:35:52,191 --> 00:35:55,695
to support and, here to understand that.

713
00:35:55,695 --> 00:35:57,697
And it's challenging at first for sure,

714
00:35:57,697 --> 00:36:00,658
because any time away from me,
I was like, no, I need time with him.

715
00:36:00,867 --> 00:36:03,035
But then you'd think about
what they're actually doing

716
00:36:03,035 --> 00:36:07,206
and they're literally helping people
with their health and their lives.

717
00:36:07,206 --> 00:36:09,667
And that's really rewarding.

718
00:36:09,667 --> 00:36:13,296
So even being a part of that
by being his spouse is just amazing.

719
00:36:13,296 --> 00:36:17,550
It is it's like, look,
you have to keep in mind that there's

720
00:36:17,550 --> 00:36:23,514
a larger picture there that they're
helping others get better in their lives.

721
00:36:23,514 --> 00:36:27,435
And it's so rewarding
when they come home and say,

722
00:36:27,435 --> 00:36:30,021
oh my God, you know what happened today?

723
00:36:30,021 --> 00:36:35,443
one of my patients got better
and I was helping them since so long.

724
00:36:35,443 --> 00:36:39,780
And finally, they're all okay now.

725
00:36:40,198 --> 00:36:41,199
And that's.

726
00:36:41,199 --> 00:36:43,826
I think that's the most rewarding

727
00:36:43,826 --> 00:36:47,872
you can ever any, any profession
probably has that.

728
00:36:47,872 --> 00:36:50,875
But especially
being a being into health care,

729
00:36:51,125 --> 00:36:53,961
you actually feel it right.

730
00:36:53,961 --> 00:36:54,420
Yeah.

731
00:36:54,420 --> 00:36:57,423
And I would definitely agree with Sriya,
whatn she said.

732
00:36:57,965 --> 00:37:00,134
I just want to say like if we are

733
00:37:01,177 --> 00:37:02,428
helping patients,

734
00:37:02,428 --> 00:37:07,934
50% of that is at least you guys
because we can't do this job without you.

735
00:37:08,100 --> 00:37:09,227
Yeah. Thank you.

736
00:37:09,227 --> 00:37:11,062
That's definitely that's very sweet.

737
00:37:11,062 --> 00:37:12,355
That's definitely true.

738
00:37:12,355 --> 00:37:17,735
And because you do need
to find your support group, people

739
00:37:17,735 --> 00:37:20,738
that you can kind of rely on when,

740
00:37:21,155 --> 00:37:24,158
something becomes difficult
and whether that is just work,

741
00:37:24,450 --> 00:37:27,453
whether that is, administration stuff

742
00:37:27,703 --> 00:37:30,957
or whether that is having to talk
with insurance companies or anything.

743
00:37:31,415 --> 00:37:35,753
one of the things that that Veer
and I try to do to our best is, is,

744
00:37:36,254 --> 00:37:40,383
try not to bring our work home, other
than, you know, the documentation part,

745
00:37:40,383 --> 00:37:45,513
but we try not to vent or anything, so, 
but before we end,

746
00:37:45,513 --> 00:37:50,226
I just wanted to say thank you guys
so much for for really coming by and for,

747
00:37:50,226 --> 00:37:54,272
answering all of our questions
and, also for talking very highly of us.

748
00:37:54,689 --> 00:37:55,648
We really appreciate it.

749
00:37:56,607 --> 00:37:59,610
We we are just stating the facts.

750
00:38:00,653 --> 00:38:03,656
You all again again here you're too too kind.

751
00:38:03,739 --> 00:38:06,659
Yes. thank you to our listeners,

752
00:38:06,659 --> 00:38:09,787
for joining us on this special episode

753
00:38:09,787 --> 00:38:13,291
and getting to know us and our family
a little bit better.

754
00:38:13,291 --> 00:38:16,794
And, to anybody out there, who,

755
00:38:17,253 --> 00:38:21,048
you know, our goal is to get you guys
a glimpse of what it's like.

756
00:38:21,299 --> 00:38:24,051
And, thank you to Norman
Regional for this opportunity.

757
00:38:24,051 --> 00:38:27,638
And, of course, our marketing staff,
as always, Emily and Jim are here.

758
00:38:27,638 --> 00:38:28,973
Shout out.

759
00:38:28,973 --> 00:38:31,767
And with that being said, guys, as always,

760
00:38:31,767 --> 00:38:34,687
be safe,
be healthy and stay classy, my friends.

761
00:38:34,687 --> 00:38:36,147
And stay out of trouble. My friends.